Posts Tagged ‘children’

Are you aware that in 2008, 772,000 children were victims of abuse and neglect?  Nearly 2,000 of those children died. By providing states and local communities with new tools to identify and treat abuse and neglect, CAPTA-funded services will continue to protect children across the country.  Prevention efforts will help parents by addressing high risk-factors like substance abuse, mental illness and domestic violence.

Domestic violence still affects 1 in 4 women in states and territories across the country.  FVPSA funds nearly 1,700 shelters and service programs for victims of domestic violence and their children.  It also supports the National Domestic Violence Hotline, whose staff and volunteers answer more than 22,000 calls for help each month and link victims with the resources they need to rebuild their lives.

The following members of Congress whose leadership was essential to CAPTA and FVPSA’s passage are: Senator Tom Harkin, Senator Mike Enzi, Senator Lamar Alexander, Representative George Miller, Representative John Kline, Representative Carolyn McCarthy, and Representative Todd Platts and more particularly Senator Chris Dodd and Representative Gwen Moore, who were the lead sponsors of FVPSA and who worked so hard to ensure the bill passed this year.

As a woman, I would like to thank the members of Congress for ensuring that this bill passed this year and thank President Obama for reauthorizing this important act too.

As a grandmother, I have witnessed some of the games mentioned in this article and agree that some of them are violent. Do I want to be the grandma run down in the street by the wild teenager in the car? Of course I don’t. (You know what I am talking about if you have ever seen or played Grand Theft Auto). Do I want the government telling me what my grandchild can or can’t rent or buy? No, I don’t. I think as adults it is our duty to teach our children and grandchildren the difference between real life and video games. My grandson loves Grand Theft Auto, or at least he used to. He got bored with it pretty quickly. I also watched him play it and we talked about him running grandma over in the game and what would happen if he did that in real life. Grandma doesn’t get back up and wait for the next car to come and run her over in real life, lol. I don’t worry that my grandson will grow up to be a violent man because he played these games. I worry more about the gangs in his school and the violence he witnesses in real life more. How about you?

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If the Supreme Court renders justice in a case it heard this month, Schwarzenegger v. Entertainment Merchants Association, it will strike down a California law barring the sale or rental of violent video games to anyone under 18. That would end a violation of free expression — but not prevent the states from finding other ways to support parents who do not want their children to play violent games.
Restricting the content of games, however, would mean adding to the short list of expression excluded from the First Amendment’s protection. Just last April, the court said the Constitution does not permit the government to impose a restriction “simply on the basis that some speech is not worth it.”
But in an opinion from the United States Court of Appeals for the Ninth Circuit overturning the California law, Chief Judge Alex Kozinski said that the 1968 ruling dealt with “a sub-category of obscenity — obscenity as to minors.” It “did not create an entirely new category of expression excepted from First Amendment protection.”

“We do not have a tradition in this country of telling children they should watch people actively hitting schoolgirls over the head with a shovel so they’ll beg for mercy,” he said. He concluded sternly, “We protect children from that.”

He is right, society can protect children from that. Narrowing the First Amendment is not the way.

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WASHINGTON — The recession continued to batter families this year, with the number of stay-at-home mothers declining and a sharp rise in the number of children living with their grandparents, according to a new Census Bureau report.

The number of children living in their grandparents’ home increased by 8 percent compared with 2009, the second such rise in two years, and an indication that the recession is rearranging how people live.

Over all, 6.5 percent of children in the United States lived with their grandparents, a 20-year high and double the rate in 1970, said Andrew Cherlin, a professor of sociology and public policy at Johns Hopkins University, who analyzed the data.

Of the 7.5 million children who lived with a grandparent in 2010, more than a fifth did not have a parent present in the household, the report said.

The report also highlighted increases in the marriage age for men and women, a long-term trend that began in the 1950s. This year, the median age for men to marry for the first time was 28, up from 26 in 2000. The age for women was 26, up from 25 a decade ago.

In all, 54 percent of adults were married in 2010, down from 57 percent in 2000, the report said. At the same time, the number of one-person households rose to 27 percent over the past decade, up from 25 percent in 2000. That is more than double the number of one-person households in 1960, the report said.

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I know, just talking about lice and you start to itch. When I read this article it did the same to me. I don’t know if your children have ever had lice, mine did once and even my grandkids have gotten them. All of them got it within the first couple of years of starting school and always at the beginning of the school year. Back when my sons had them, it was looked upon as this article says, that they must live in filth and you had to stay home from school and prove that your child no longer had lice with an embarrassing inspection of their head. But as I started researching, I found out that lice can’t attach to dirty hair, oily hair, or hair with lots of greasy hair products on them. Seems the oil on the hair shaft doesn’t allow the lice to attach. So, don’t panic if your child gets lice, you don’t have to clean like a cleaning fool to get rid of them. Chemicals are not necessary either. The links below are very helpful, so check them out now so if your child does get these itchy pests, you won’t panic and you will know what to do.

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The mere thought of these tiny critters crawling around a child’s scalp is enough to generate shudders of disgust. Judging from the drastic measures some parents take to get rid of them — from mayonnaise and vinegar to overdoses of potentially toxic chemicals — you’d think they were the worst scourge on earth.

Yet aside from the ick factor and a sometimes itchy scalp caused by an allergic reaction to their saliva, head lice cause no physical distress and transmit no diseases. In a clinical report issued in July by the American Academy of Pediatrics, the organization noted that head lice cause “a high level of anxiety among parents of school-aged children.”

A bigger problem than the lice themselves is that infestations are commonly misdiagnosed. By some estimates, at least half of the young children treated for head lice — even forbidden to attend school, in some cities and states with “no nit” policies — no longer have them or were never infested in the first place.

Schools that check children for lice often rely on nurses and parents ill equipped to detect an active lice infestation. In one study of more than 600 samples of presumed lice or eggs submitted by teachers, parents, nurses and physicians, about two-thirds turned out to be dandruff, scabs, dirt, plugs of skin cells, hair spray droplets, other insects or eggs that were no longer viable or already hatched.

In the words of the pediatrics academy, “a child should not be restricted from school attendance because of lice; no-nit policies should be abandoned.” And “routine classroom or schoolwide screening should be discouraged.”

Anyone can get head lice. They have no respect for social class, hygiene, hair length or frequency of brushing. They are most often transmitted by direct head-to-head contact, far less often by exposure to the clothing, hats, helmets, hair accessories, headphones or furnishings used by an infested person. Children are more often infested than adults, and whites more so than other groups.

While “it is probably impossible to prevent all head lice infestations,” the pediatrics report stated, “it is prudent for children to be taught not to share personal items such as combs, brushes and hats. However, no one should refuse to wear protective headgear because of fear of head lice.”

“The gold standard for diagnosing head lice is finding a live louse on the head,” the academy report stated. This can be tricky because the insects are tiny — from the size of a strawberry seed to about one-eighth of an inch — and they avoid light and can crawl quickly. The best place to look is at the nape of the neck and behind the ears.

Finding eggs is often easier, but they may not represent an active infestation that warrants treatment. In an interview, Dr. Pollack explained that training and magnification may be needed to distinguish between a nit that houses a live embryo and one that is nonviable, empty or dead. Whereas viable eggs may camouflage with pigment to match hair color, empty egg casings usually appear white. Nits found more than half an inch from the scalp are not in themselves a sign of an active infestation, Dr. Pollack said.

Thus, like the pediatrics academy, he says treatment should be considered only when active lice or viable eggs are spotted. “Itching of the scalp or the perception that something is crawling on the head does not warrant treatment for lice,” he said.

Even when live head lice or viable eggs are found on someone’s scalp, “herculean cleaning measures” are not necessary, according to the recent report on the problem by the American Academy of Pediatrics.

While it is prudent to clean the bedding, bedclothes and hair care items used by the infested person, the report stated, “only items that have been in contact with the head of the person with infestation in the 24 to 48 hours before treatment should be considered for cleaning.”

If one person in the home is infested with head lice, all household members should be checked, but only “those with live lice or nits within one centimeter of the scalp should be treated.”

Washing or drying items at temperatures above 130 degrees Fahrenheit will kill stray lice or nits. Items that cannot be washed can be dry-cleaned or bagged in plastic for two weeks. Furniture, carpeting, car seats and other fabric-covered items can be vacuumed.

As for home remedies, like mayonnaise and vinegar, there is no reliable evidence of their effectiveness. Petroleum jelly applied thickly to the hair could asphyxiate the insects, but it is very hard to wash out. Various “natural” products — oils and herbal remedies — are not required to meet federal standards for safety and effectiveness.

And what about removing live eggs with a metal fine-toothed comb — better known as nitpicking?

It is tedious, but it can be effective. Nitpicking is easiest to do on wet hair treated with conditioner, and should be repeated after a week or so. There are also commercial nitpicking salons and individuals who charge by the head or hour.

Guidance that Dr. Pollack developed to manage lice infestations at home and school can be found at the Web site http://identify.us.com/head-lice/head-lice-document-download. The California Department of Public Health has an illustrated guide for parents that can be found by doing a Web search for “head lice parents guide.”

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Last month, advocates and opponents of same-sex marriage packed the New Jersey State House in Trenton, supporters in blue, opponents in red. Near the end of the day, Kasey Nicholson-McFadden took the microphone. “It doesn’t bother me to tell kids my parents are gay,” he said in a clear voice. “It does bother me to say they aren’t married. It makes me feel that our family is less than their family.”

In 2008 about 116,000 same-sex couples across the country were raising a total of about 250,000 children under age 18, according to an analysis of Census data by Gary J. Gates, a demographer of the gay and lesbian population at the Williams Institute at the University of California, Los Angeles, law school.

With 31 states having rejected same-sex marriage — most recently in Maine, New Jersey and New York — strategies used by supporters now include projecting a mainstream family image in public opinion campaigns surrounding court battles like the challenge to Proposition 8, the ballot measure that reversed marriage rights for same-sex couples in California. Many gay rights activists think that hearing articulate children of same-sex parents ask why their families should have fewer rights than their neighbors goes a long way toward turning the family values argument on its head. Last week, Chiah Connolly-Ingram, 21, the daughter of a lesbian couple, helped close the rally outside the Federal Courthouse in San Francisco, where Proposition 8 is being challenged. “As the daughter of lesbian moms, I know that children are affected by this decision,” said Ms. Connolly-Ingram, a student at City College of San Francisco and an intern at Colage.

This article appeared in the New York Times this past week and puts a new light on same-sex marriage. Whether you agree with it or not, many children of same- sex couples are speaking up about the challenges and the rights they feel their families should have.

via Children Take the Stage in Same-Sex Marriage Push – NYTimes.com.

In an article in today’s New York Times, there is an article about a 7 year old boy who had a stroke and his family’s ordeal. One of the interesting quotes in this article is “It turns out that stroke, by some estimates, is the sixth leading cause of death in infants and children. And experts say doctors and hospitals need to be far more aggressive in detecting and treating it.”

The article is quite long and very detailed. To read it, and I would recommend that you do, please click here.

According to a report by UN and WHO, an estimated 1.5 million infants die each year from childhood diarrhea and/or dehydration associated with diarrhea. 39% of children who suffer from diarrhea do not receive the recommended medical treatment, said Ann Veneman, executive director of the UN Children’s Fund (UNICEF). The result is that close to 18% of all deaths occurring in children under five years of age are from mostly preventable forms of diarrhea, typically caused by contaminated water and bacterial infections.

For the complete story, you can see it here.

Childhood Diarrhea Kills 1.5 Million Infants Each Year

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The following link takes you to a heart wrenching video of a young 8 year old boy who’s father caused brain damage that has left scars of a lifetime. It is hard to watch but important to see what abuse can do to the children and the rest of the family as well.

via http://hamptonroads.tv/hrtv.php?id=8415773.

This is the time of year that we in Family Law see a lot of disagreements between parents, even when there are custody and visitation orders in place.  Divorce and separation are hard enough on children, don’t let the holidays bring more unhappiness for them.

Yes, the relatives are coming and they want to see the children.  If it’s not your Thanksgiving with the children, why not have your Thanksgiving on a different day?  Kids don’t care what day they have turkey on.  Why should you?  After all, it is just one damn day out of the year, right?

Some parents split the day with the children with one having them in the morning and one in the evening.  This to me is to hard on the children.  Really, can children eat two meals?  Should they?  How much fun do you think this would be for your children?  Alternating the holidays usually works best for the children.  There are those parents who, even after divorce, can put aside their differences and spend the holidays with each other, their families and their children.  This might be great for some, but not for all.  Remember, being a parent means you sometimes, ok, more than sometimes, have to sacrifice what you want for what is best for your children.

So, with Thanksgiving coming, that means Christmas is on its way as well.  Yes, it is wonderful to see children waking up on Christmas morning excited and running to open their presents.  But it may not be your year for the children on Christmas Day.  Kids don’t care when they get to open their presents, they just want them.  Many of us have Christmas Eve and Christmas Day celebrations.

When my children were little, I was lucky and so were they.  For all the years their father and I were together, his family celebrated on Christmas Eve.  My family celebrated on Christmas Day.  After we divorced, it remained this way.  Our boys would usually spend the first week out of school through Christmas Eve with their father and his family.  Christmas Day and the following week was spent with me and my family.  The boys always thought that Christmas was actually 2 days long!  They still, even as adults, open a present on Christmas Eve and the rest on Christmas Day.

It was all about the children as it should be.  As hard as it can be, it is important to remember this.  Your children will remember and don’t you want them to have great memories of the holidays?  Heck, if you can do this for them during the holidays, why can’t you do this for them all year?  I know, I may be asking to much here, lol.

 

No matter what you and the other parent decide the visitation schedule should be during the holidays, remember that these days should be examples for giving thanks and celebration with family and friends and not fighting about your children as if they are possessions.  Your children will be watching and learning the lessons that you instill in them during these times as well as the rest of the year.  Some day they may be raising your grandchildren and wouldn’t you want them to have a good foundation on how to co-parent together, whether living as a family unit or separately?